Can We Guess Your Emotional Language?

By: Emily Maggrett
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About This Quiz

What's your emotional language? Are you fluent in gift-giving, an expert at paying compliments or the world's greatest kisser? The way you convey love and respect for others indicates your preferred emotional style. You may demonstrate that you care through kind words, or you might prefer to show your affection by doing favors for others. Some folks feel that giving their undivided attention to their loved ones is the most important form of intimacy, while other people think that present-giving or physical contact are more meaningful communication styles. 

In this quiz, we're going to ask you a series of hypothetical questions that will tell us which emotional language you speak. We'll query you about your ideal honeymoon, Valentine's Day and anniversary celebrations, as well as asking about the ways in which you strive to support your family, friends and colleagues. By the end of the quiz, we'll have determined your primary emotional language and will be able to tell you what it is. We'll also offer you some tips and tricks for making your specific emotional language work well for you. Ready to find out your emotional communication style? Let's play!



Your best friend is planning a birthday party for you. What would you like to do?

Your manager wants to reward your department for their hard work and asks you what you want. What do you request?

You've had a very bad week. What can your family do to make you feel better?

It's Christmas! What are you giving your loved ones?

It's Valentine's Day, and your partner has planned a surprise for you. What do you hope the surprise is?

You've just graduated high school. What kind of gifts are you hoping to receive?

Which of these actions prove that someone is truly your friend?

Which of these actions do you find the most romantic?

Your colleague just worked very hard to help you make a project successful. How do you show them that you appreciate their help?

Your grandmother is coming to visit you. What kind of activities do you plan on doing with her?

It's your anniversary! How are you celebrating it?

What's the best gift you've ever been given?

What's the best gift you've ever given someone else?

If you're feeling depressed, what can your partner do to comfort you?

If you're overwhelmed by a project, what should your manager do to inspire you?

What's your most treasured memento?

What's your least favorite form of affection?

Your partner is going away on a month-long trip for work. What do you want to make sure to do with them before they leave?

What's the nicest thing that anybody's ever done for you?

What's the nicest thing you've ever done for someone else?

Your best friend is sick. How do you help them?

You're your brother's best man. What kind of bachelor party do you plan?

You know your partner is having a hard time at work. How do you demonstrate that you're there for them?

What's your ideal honeymoon?

How do you feel about compliments?

Which of these behaviors from a partner bothers you the most?

An old friend has lost his job. He's in the middle of a divorce and doesn't have anywhere to stay. What do you do to help him?

Does it bother you when people cancel plans with you?

What makes you fall in love with someone?

What makes you stay in love with someone?

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