What Type of Partner Are You in a Relationship?

By: Zoe Samuel
Estimated Completion Time
5 min
What Type of Partner Are You in a Relationship?
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About This Quiz

When it comes to relationships, no two partners are the same. No matter what sort of relationship you have, you have, undoubtedly, taken on a role. You might be the cheerleader or the organizer. You could be known as the wild one or the one with the heart of gold. No matter how you approach your relationships, we're going to let you know exactly what kind of partner you always end up being. 

The most wonderful thing about relationships is finding a balance of personalities. While you might take on one role, you partner will surely counter with a role that supports you and enhances your lives. Together, the two of you make a complete whole, but what type of partner would you define yourself as? Are you the clingy type or are you the type that lets you partner run wild, because you know they will be home eventually? No matter your relationship partner style, we're interested in finding out with you. 

Tell us about the way you respond to your partner's needs, and we'll be able to decipher what role you play. Your truest responses will get the most accurate result! Ready to see yourself the way your partner sees you?

Do you have good boundaries?
I have none at all.
I steamroll other people's boundaries!
No, they're erratic.
Yes

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How kind are you?
Quite saintly
I'm generous, not kind.
I oscillate from kind to selfish.
A healthy amount

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How do you show love?
Service
Gifts
Snuggles
I factor my partner's needs into my actions on a daily basis.

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How ambitious are you?
Not a bit
Extremely
A little
Quite a lot

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Do you know how to share?
I just give everything.
Why would I do that?
Sometimes
Yes

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Do you avoid confrontation?
Yes, even if it means dying inside.
No, I just yell.
Yes, until I snap and yell.
A little, but I know that's silly so generally I just bite the bullet.

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Do you get your warm fuzzies through service to others?
That is the only way I get them.
That sounds dumb.
Yes, but only if they are very grateful.
That is how I get some of them.

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Do you mind being the power behind the throne?
I would rather be the warm fuzzy blanket behind the throne.
No, I am the king or queen.
Sounds OK.
Sometimes

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Have you ever gone to therapy?
No, that is indulgent.
Yes, I had to because of some ridiculous driving offense business.
Yes, I just started.
For a while

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How mature are you?
Fairly
I think I am, but for some reason, other people don't always agree.
Not very, honestly.
Very, but you can always grow more.

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Do you have a reason beyond your control - e.g. health trouble - that you might find it hard to fend yourself in this dog-eat-dog world of ours?
I have no resume.
No, I am perfect and great.
Yes, several.
Occasional health issues, yes.

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Are you a gentle soul?
I am indeed a veritable teddy bear.
LOL no
I can be.
Yes, but I have a hard shell when I need.

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Do you believe in 1950's gender roles?
Of course
If they are convenient for me.
Not really
No, they are really unhelpful.

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How easygoing are you?
Dangerously so
I always get my way, so very.
I'm not really.
I try to be but I also have standards.

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Do you throw a lot of tantrums?
Never
They're not tantrums, they're dominance displays, and nuts to anyone who says different!
Yes
Rarely

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If your partner asks you to do something small, like be 10% tidier, but you don't feel like it, what might incentivize you to change your behavior?
To make them feel good
Money, maybe, but probably nothing
Incentives and rewards
I care about them, therefore I care about things they care about, and I want them to be comfortable and happy.

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If you wanted to do a small nice thing for your partner, what might it be?
I would cook and clean for them.
I would buy them a car.
I would give them a kiss.
I would organize a nice evening out for them.

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Do you know what emotional labor is?
Yes, it is my job.
No, sounds a bit ridiculous.
Yes, it's hard work.
Yes, it's something we should both do.

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Do you tend to make things all about you?
Never
I don't make them that way, they just are.
Yes, I know it's bad, but I can't help it.
Once in a while

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Do you ever feel invisible?
Yes, that's just natural.
Never
Sometimes, yes
Only once in a while

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Do you take responsibility for your feelings?
I take responsibility for everyone's feelings.
If people annoy me then that is their fault.
Not really
Yes

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Do you think you can change a partner?
No, you have to accept them as they are.
Yes, you can just browbeat them.
Yes, you can badger them.
You can help them change if they want to, or inspire them to want to be better - as they can for you.

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How resilient are you?
I have more fortitude than resilience, I can suffer quietly for years.
I am not resilient but I am strong enough to not break in the first place, so I don't need to be.
Not very
Fairly - I get knocked down but I get up again.

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Do you know how to recognize early red flags for an abusive partner?
No idea
I don't think people as tough as me are at risk of that.
One or two
Yes, and I avoid them like the plague.

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Do you take time for yourself?
No, that's selfish.
All the time is for myself!
Yes, when I can.
Once in a while

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Are you ready for the long haul?
Yes, I am the marrying kind.
I am playing the field, mostly.
No, that sounds like a trap.
Yes, I am ready to commit to someone good and kind.

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Do you pull your logistical weight without being asked?
I pull more than my weight.
I don't have to; I pay other people for such things.
I do it when I am asked but not otherwise.
Yes, most of the time.

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Have you ever told your partner that they were overreacting or being unreasonable?
Of course not, that'd be provocative.
Yes, because they were.
Yes, because I was lashing out.
No, because it would be mean and silencing if they weren't, and counter-productive if they were!

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Do you talk negatively about your partner to other people?
No, I just absorb their negative ways and try to love them anyway.
Yes, if they deserve it.
Yes, if I need to vent.
No unless I really, really need advice, and then I am discreet and careful.

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Do you share a lot about your relationship on social media?
Yes, I post photos of all our happy moments.
No, my partner does though.
Yes, I post photos of all the cool things we do.
I post the occasional highlight.

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